END OF LIFE DOULA CARE
End of life doulas ensure that each dying person’s values, rights, options and choices are given priority and his/her emotional and spiritual needs are addressed in the overall care plan. Doulas are non-medical care providers who offer a quiet, respectful and nurturing presence. Support is practical, informational, social and physical in nature. We assist with nutritional needs and offer comfort care through complementary therapy modalities. At Ten Thousand Doors, our End of Life Doulas’ distinct trademark is an ability to provide contemplative compassion while guiding a dying individual (and loved ones) to find resonating purpose and meaning, to reflect on the mysteries of life and death, to bring moments of joy through the dying transition and to fully embody inner peace.
END OF LIFE DOULA CONSULTANCY
The end of life transition can be difficult to navigate. Family members may be in a different locale or have other responsibilities, and balancing life when a sudden upheaval is thrust upon them requires meticulous, thoughtful and timely planning and preparation. Our multi-disciplinary, patient centered team ensures that every aspect of care is addressed, and each area is effective and efficient in fulfilling their assigned commitment to the patient’s multitude of needs and desires.
END OF LIFE DOULA ADVOCACY
We work with and for our clients to inform them about their rights and options for care so they can make decisions best suited to them. We also partner with individuals, families, communities and organizations in the development of personal care plans and with the navigation of health/hospital/medical issues.
LIFE REVIEW & LEGACY WORK
Life review and legacy work are projects that highlight life’s biggest moments and can have important immediate benefits to a dying person and family members. These are opportunities that can help us to see a new or different perspective, that makes possible the writing of the final chapter that is our own unique legacy. Working on a project together brings connection and creates a natural opportunity for loved ones to talk, or just be with one another. We work together to conceptualize, design, develop and complete any project that is meaningful for you.
FAMILY CULTURE & TRADITION
Traditions are the heart of family. The rituals, practices, beliefs and ideals are how strong families are created. Elders and parents are models for children demonstrating participation, responsibility, trust and respect. Some traditions last many generations and sometimes families lose commitment due to lack of motivation, loss of value recognition and importance or decreased sense of emotional closeness. Dying and death can be experienced in a positive light, when families comes together in tradition and support one another through sorrow and grief, practically and energetically. Within the larger context of community, social values are important and the commitment to ignite or reignite family traditions will have an overall positive effect on the culture of dying and death.
CEREMONY, RITUAL, CELEBRATION
People in ancient and modern times include celebration as part of death. Ceremonies and rituals being at the heart of celebration are also common. How, when and where these typically public occasions occur, are limited only by imagination and creativity. Families and communities also have every opportunity to honour their loved one in the typical North Americans funeral homes. As society begins to change its perspective on death, we are discovering other ways to celebrate the life of our loved ones. This includes elements that are tailored to positively reflect and mirror that person's values.
AFTER DEATH BODY CARE, HOME FUNERAL, ALTERNATE BURIALS
In modern times, families and some religious communities continue to care for a loved one’s body following death. In North America, the more commonly used practice is to allow hospitals to arrange a transfer to the funeral home for posthumous care. However, many humans have an intrinsic desire to care for their loved one after death. Washing, dressing and laying out our loved one's body for visitation, is considered completely normal and acceptable in many cultures. Our doulas facilitate this type of care, followed by a funeral or celebration within a residential home. This ritual is loving, respectful and allows us to fully honour our loved ones. Green burial grounds, that are eco-friendly, (no embalment required) exists and are on the rise throughout Canada. These natural death care options allow us to take time to process our feelings and come to terms with loss, aiding in healing our sorrow.
GRIEF & BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT
The loss of a loved one changes our lives in unexpected ways. Sometimes, the feelings that result from death can be unfamiliar and unexpected. Not knowing how to prepare or how to cope with the inevitable emotions makes it difficult to know how to help ourselves. When we are overwhelmed by sorrow and despair, assistance and support, aids in minimizing the impact. So that we can continue to care for ourselves in ways that gives us balance and that honors our loss, reaching out is important.
DEATH & DYING TRAUMA RECOVERY
Experiencing the dying process and the death of a loved can cause more stress than we sometimes can handle, especially for those directly involved in care. Being with dying and/or the circumstances that caused the death can be traumatizing and can cause tremendous emotional pain and shock. When death occurs tragically, accidentally or suddenly, for example, it can be difficult to accept, and the impact can be devastating. Our therapists use a variety of healing modalities and therapeutic approaches including (not limited to) Grief Recovery Method, Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, Hakomi, and art/play therapy, to assist our clients in regaining life balance.
SUPPORT FOR PET OWNERS
The loss of a pet can be just as devastating, they are loved ones too. We become attached to our pets by virtue of our dedication, their loyalty and the amity they provide. In our culture, our pets are family members and the intimation that we wouldn’t be affected is unreasonable. Grief can make us feel very alone, especially so when our pet, such a devoted companion, is no longer by our side. Understanding, accepting and reaching out when we are feeling overwhelmed or lost, leading up to or following a pet’s loss is invaluable in regaining a healthy life balance.